Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Friday, November 27, 2009
Saturday, November 21, 2009
When this happens I believe that you must get outside your space before the shrunken thoughts get bigger than you and end up suffocating. Only when you remove yourself from that space can you gain perspective and see the world for how big, beautiful, scary and alive it is. The worlds reality puts everything in perspective for you very quickly.
Eventually I forced myself to leave my space to get a little human interaction and stop myself from drowing in drama and self pity.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies
Monday, November 16, 2009
Eight symptoms indicative of Groupthink
- Illusions of invulnerability creating excessive optimism and encouraging risk taking.
- Rationalizing warnings that might challenge the group's assumptions.
- Unquestioned belief in the morality of the group, causing members to ignore the consequences of their actions.
- Stereotyping those who are opposed to the group as weak, evil, biased, spiteful, disfigured, impotent, or stupid.
- Direct pressure to conform placed on any member who questions the group, couched in terms of "disloyalty".
- Self censorship of ideas that deviate from the apparent group consensus.
- Illusions of unanimity among group members, silence is viewed as agreement.
- Mind guards — self-appointed members who shield the group from dissenting information.
If I had known all of this a few years ago, the most painful summer of my life would've been much more endurable.
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
In Flanders fields the poppies blow
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
— Lt.-Col. John McCrae (1872 - 1918)
Monday, November 9, 2009
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Monday, October 26, 2009
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Monday, October 19, 2009
- The Shaper: This person is challenging, dynamic and thrives on pressure however they also sometimes steamroll others ideas.
- The Implementer: This person is disciplined, reliable and efficient however they can also be conservative and inflexible.
- The Complete Finisher: This person is always on time and searches out errors however they can also be anxious, critical and they will not delegate tasks.
Then there are People-Oriented Roles
- The Coordinator: This person is mature, confident and keeps order however they can seem manipulative.
- The Teamworker: This person is mild, diplomatic and a good listener however they can also be indecisive and they avoid confrontation.
- The Resource Investigator: This person is extroverted, enthusiastic however they can be bored easily.
And finally, the Cerebral Roles
- The Plant: This person is creative, unorthadox and solves problems however they also tend to ignore reality.
- The Monitor Evaluator: This person is sobering and strategic however they also lack drive and do not motivate well.
- The Specialist: This person is single-minded, dedicated and have vital knowledge and skills however they can also have a very narrow focus and offer limited contributions.
In different situations you will play different roles depending on the strenghts and weaknesses of the other members of your group.
Look at all of these roles? Where do you see yourself? Where have you been in the past? Where would you LIKE to be?
Friday, October 16, 2009
The other night I went to see "The Invention of Lying". I knew absolutley nothing about the premise of the film, just that it featured Ricky Gervais and Jennifer Garner. From the little I had heard I thought that it would be more artistic and theoretical, sort of snap shots of peoples lives that had been changed by lying. Instead I saw an extremely moving (and at some times, depressing) love story about two people who were trying to overcome their respective preconcieved notions about dating. Should you be with someone who is your genetic, intellectual and professional match? Someone that you can make intellengent and attractive children with? Or should you be with someone that makes you happy, regardless of all that other stuff?
However, the most interesting part of the movie is the setting...living in a world where lying just...isn't. It's not an option, it's not on the menu, it's not on the radar....it just isn't. The first scene completely blows your mind and it takes a while to get used to. It is a painful reminder of how many little lies we tell every day. It makes you realize that little white lies have become the lubricant of our society.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
- Normally when men listen to women they don't want to listen, they just want to solve. They are not particularly interested in listening to your problem and offering support, they want to cut you off mid sentence and offer solutions to your problems. In my family, it is the opposite, my Mother always wants to solve my problems before I've finished explaining them and my Dad listens to me and sympathizes offering a "sometimes, life just sucks" every now and then. Sometimes you just need to allow a conversation to run its course before you interject.
“To listen well is as powerful a means of communication and influence as to talk well.”
- One of the reasons that we are not great listeners in this day and age is because we have become accustomed to communicating over the Internet and we now feel that we need to respond to everything with words. One of my biggest pet pevees when talking to someone over MSN or FB chat is when they get offended if you don't respond to every message they send...even if the message doesn't include a question or a statement that requires a response. OR if they respond with LOL....LOL is NOT a response! The art of conversation is slowly dying and people are just retreating to their huts to live without human interaction. I'm not saying that I am better than anyone else, I hate talking on the phone and going out for coffee because I hate awkward silences. I would much rather get to know someone via e-mail because you can be a little more careful and guarded about what you reveal. However, I am not a fan of internet lingo and I do prefer that you speak in complete sentences with proper grammar (another thing that internet dating has taught me).
"The more elaborate our means of communication, the less we communicate."
- But I digress...another really interesting concept is non-verbal communications. It was the first way that people learned how to communicate at the beginning of time and it was also the first type of communication we learn as children. However, in school we are only taught how to interpret written or verbal communication and less than 1% of college graduates have been able to take a course that focuses on non-verbal communication...perhaps that is why we have to deal with so many misunderstandings every day. You also have to consider the fact that non-verbal communication is much more powerful than communication because it is harder to censor. We are always emoting non-verbally, in every situation!
"What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say.”
Monday, October 5, 2009
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Monday, September 28, 2009
Saturday, September 26, 2009
“I can't go on anymore bad dates. I would rather be home alone than out with some guy who sells socks on the internet.”
I have only been on the site for one week and have had about 10 guys contact me. One of the guys seems pretty cool, one turned out to be a bit of a perv and most of them aren't really my type. However, I realized during this process that I am a bit pickier than I thought and I defiantly have a particular type. I love myself a dorky, awkward, skinny boy with dark rimmed glasses that loves movies, music, television and video games but he has to have a good sense of himself and a wicked sense of humour. I'm not into guys who loves sports, cars, working out, tight shirts, gold chains, beer or hunting. Oh, and I'm not really into the whole bald with a goatee look, I don't know why but most of the guys who have messaged me have that combo going on (I know that seems shallow but I've got to be honest). I don't want you to look like every other guy with a ball cap and an abercrombie t-shirt, I just want someone who is original and passionate about something.
I also had one thing reaffirmed for me....I don't like clingy/needy guys. I don't like a guy who puts it all out there right on the first date. I like a little mystery, a little chase, a bit of a hunt. As long as you're honest and straightforward once we get together, I don't mind a bit of a with-holding dance during the courtship. I don't need to be in constant communication with you at all times (as I said, I have a very full life) but a nice "I'm thinking about you" or "I saw this and it reminded me of you" text is nice. I like somethings to be left to the imagination...it keeps it interesting.
I also realized that, although I am lonely sometimes, I've been alone for a long time and I don't need a man in my life to be happy. I have a very full life with lots of friends, an amazing family, a new career on the horizon and interests that I don't want to give up so that I can appear more desirable to a man. We all have our 'desperate moments' but it's like shopping, I don't want to settle for something that doesn't fit properly just because I need something to wear.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Enjoy! And if you have any suggestions for me...I'm all ears!
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
"everything i ever needed to know in life i learned from killing smart people and eating their brains."
Monday, August 24, 2009
Sunday, August 23, 2009
and i think it's kind of fun seein' them walk around downtown
and we don't think you know yourself
Friday, August 21, 2009
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Friday, August 7, 2009
Sometimes I wish I was still able to put myself out there like that but after being hurt, embaressed and humiliated so many times...*sigh* I applaud you, young lady.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Hawaii is beautiful. So beautiful that it is hard to believe that it is a part of the United States of America. The islands are rich with culture and tradition and ,although there are parts that are undeniably tourist-y, for the most part Hawaii is a vivacious and stunning state. It's impossible not to be intrigued and inspired by the traditions and practices of the islands...this is my favorite one so far...enjoy!
Wearing a flower in your hair...
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Friday, July 24, 2009
Thursday, July 23, 2009
- The world is a carousel of colours...beautiful, wonderful colours!" For a video of a presentation about the new fireworks/water/light/amazing-ness show at Disney's California adventure, check out...
- Photo's of the new 'Alice in Wonderland' film by Tim Burton with Johnny Depp and Helena Bonham Carter. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1014759/mediaindex
- Getting e-mails from Tarina Tarantino about her STUNNING jewlery. http://www.tarinatarantino.com/
- Finding my very favorite bra's on the internet and ordering it in multiples! (I am not going to post a link for this, that would be weird).
- Buying fluffly new hot pink towels, fabulous shower curtains and delightful new sheets at discount prices!
- Watching episodes of 'Ghost Hunters' on youtube.com http://www.youtube.com/user/Presidentl1#play/user/91EDC9BB721EC655/9/aAFjiYKfzRc
- Packing up furniture to move to my new apartment!
- The thought of going to ikea tomorrow to buy this!http://www.ikea.com/ca/en/catalog/products/10121228
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Over the past year I have evolved from writing in my journal to sharing my thoughts on this blog. I still write in my journal every now and then because there are things that no one who reads this blog really want to know about. Of course there are also things that I don't want them to know about and things that I don't want to be seen by internet surfing randoms. Part of me misses the total freedom of writing in a journal, knowing that no one will read it and that 'comments' aren't encouraged.
Despite being absolutley mortified by some of the thoughts and comments that I have put on paper, I think that my old journals are very valuable. Not only do they allow me to re-evaluate my decisions, opinions and mistakes but they also inspire me to continue to learn about myself. Self improvement is something that I am very passionate about and in these journals I have gathered so many thoughts and theories (my own and others) that will continue to aid me in my journey of self discovery. The journals are filled with quotes from books I have written, movies and plays I have seen, songs I have listened to and people I've met. Every now and then there is a random artistic expression of my joy, frustration, confusion etc.
I know that, despite how painful it is to revisit this past, sometimes it is worth so that you may improve your future.